Hey there! I am Anayata and I work as the learning and development executive at Le 15 Patisserie. I’ve written this blog specially for anyone that might be thinking about moving away from home and needs to read a few reassuring words from a fellow confused adult.
I applied to Le 15 after a couple of months of my finals. I told my family about the company and conveniently left out the part that it’s based out of Mumbai (I’m from Pune). When I got selected, my emotions went raging from thrilled and excited to horrified in seconds, I had to tell my parents now. When I told them, it sounded a lot like I was confessing to a crime but they were so proud! I thought I would have to call my recruiter and say, “I really, really want to come but my parents said no. Maybe next time?”
So then I realized that I had underestimated my family (I love them) and shifting was going to be a lot tougher than telling them about it.
When I was in the process of moving, I only had the very obvious things in my head. I thought it would be as easy as making a list and checking everything off one after another. My list looked a lot like –
- Get a Job
- Find a house
- Figure out food
- Understand Mumbai locals
But reality was about to hit me bad as I forgot a few other things –
- Find a house .In Mumbai. Within a budget.
- Find a good roommate.
- Find a maid. (This one’s big)
- Make new friends
- Make time for things other than work
- Budget everything
So the next bit is divided in points but trust me, it usually happens all at once. No pressure.
House/ Roommates/ Maid
I moved in a hurry, lived at my uncle’s place for a month and understood what people meant when they said that Mumbai is a fast city. I was up at 6, in the local, at work, in the local again, home by 9, fast asleep by 10. It was all a blur, work was fun, there was no pressure and having family in the city helped me transition into this life a lot better! But I was eager to move out or it would be exactly like working in Pune plus humidity and better public transport.
I looked at flats, PGs and hostels all over the city. (Tip 1- There are great groups on Facebook that help connect people that either have flats and are looking for other people to stay with or people looking for flats. It goes something like flatsandflatmates. Great tongue twister too.) There are hostels for working women/men and students all around if you’re okay with rigid curfews too. There are all kinds of houses, spacious/tiny and cheap/expensive.
I lucked out and found a flat all thanks to my roommate who is actually a friend from Pune. She moved away from home for work around the same time as I did. Now I have a cozy house, a best friend for a roommate and my neighbours are the sweetest aunty who specializes in idlis and a black labrador called Whiskey.
Our maid comes when she wants or doesn’t on most days. (Maid issues and paying bills make you feel like you’ve finally grown up . I now get my mom’s angst.) This relationship is a work in progress, but I swear she’s it. She’s the one guys. (Tip 2 – Give equal importance to the house, the roommate and the maid and you’ll be fine.)
Self Learning and Lifestyle
The expectations v/s reality of living away from parents are stark opposites! You’d expect someone to go crazy with all the new freedom, go broke in the first week and basically become the 2007 Britney Spears.
I’ve always loved my parents for giving me a great life and now I respect them even more for financing me till I got my first job. Every time I see something nice, I take a picture and send it to my family whatsapp groups as opposed to putting groups on mute earlier. I started budgeting one month at a time (Tip 3 – please make budgets, there are many templates on the internet), I go grocery shopping and don’t end up buying 50 packets of chips and nutella (Tip 4 – needs>wants), I walk from the office to home in the evening to make up for not working out, listen to great podcasts, read books and go for random photo walks around the city. Not so bad, right?
Work and Socialising
Half your problems will get solved if your job is challenging and interesting. My work involves training and performance management for most parts of the company and I love it! Because I’m a little reserved, I took some time to make friends and work freely. Our Le 15 team is incredible with work and very supportive. Over time, we’ve become each other’s critics and motivators. We even have our own traditions, like going around the city for food walks!
So, to conclude. Moving away for work is a big deal. It will make a lot of changes in your life and most of these changes will be difficult. You’ll have many pleasant and unpleasant firsts, I sure did!
But as a fairly directionless/mostly confused/always intrigued/immensely clumsy amateur adult, moving out is one of the best decisions and it has all been worth it!
Are you someone who is considering moving to another city, or have already made the move and have a story to tell? Let me know in the comment section!